Rachel, an American mother living in Switzerland, writes the inspiring expat lifestyle blog My Mini Adventurer. I asked Rachel to be a part of Milk and Motherhood after meeting for coffee and learning that she, in her own words, ‘didn’t really breastfeed’.
This beautiful, dedicated mother breastfed her little baby for three months before too many obstacles and difficulties led her to the realisation that continuing was not the best decision for her family. I feel very honoured that she agreed to share her story with me here.
Did you go into motherhood with a firm idea of how you wanted to feed your baby?
It was doomed from the start, really. The moment they took my little guy away and whisked him off to the NICU, we didn’t stand a chance. I just didn’t know it at the time.
I had always thought I would breastfeed. My husband and I talked about it many times and agreed it was the best course of action. It was better for baby, healthy for me and, hey, think of all the money you save on not having to buy formula! When I was pregnant I imagined holding my tiny baby in my arms and breastfeeding just seemed so right, so natural. I imagined the nurturing, giving him whats best and the bonding experience it would be for us. My goal was to breastfeed for at least 6 months.
What was your experience of breastfeeding during those first few days in hospital, when Carter was in NICU?
In the NICU they are very encouraging of breastfeeding. They want to babies to get the most milk from their moms that they can. They encouraged me to pump and bring in and much as I could to supplement whatever else he was getting. Starting right after birth I began pumping in the hospital. It was very frustrating, painful and tiring at first. I barely made anything the first times I tried, maybe a drop or two total! Over the next few days I continued pumping as instructed and began to produce a little bit more. I would suction up all the tiny drops into the syringes they gave me and proudly show them off to my husband and my mom. At this time my milk was counted in millilitres and I was proud of each tiny one!
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Rachel, thank you so very much for sharing your breastfeeding journey with me. I can not imagine the stress of having given birth to a baby that had to be whisked off to NICU, and I know that there will not be one single person who is reading your story and thinking that you ‘didn’t try hard enough’. I deeply admire your self-awareness and your consciousness of the holistic nature of feeding our babies – it isn’t only about the milk! It makes me very happy to hear that you know that you made the best decision for your family.
* It is such a shame to me that many hospitals don’t employ all the other potential ways to supplement in order to safeguard a breastfeeding relationship, like finger feeding, using a SupplementalNursing System, cup and syringe feeding, etc.
** I have heard of mothers being advised to do this, and it always makes me a little sad… pumping output absolutely does not equal milk supply. I have worked with mothers with breasts engorged with milk, who were unable to get one single drop from a pump after almost thirty minutes. These mothers then fed their babies a full feed immediately after, and have absolutely no supply issues. Some mamas just don’t respond well to a pump, which has nothing to do with their milk.